Not everyone gets to be loved. Not everyone gets to love in
return. We think about fairy tales and Disney princess movies and each girl
assumes she’s Cinderella, or she’s Belle. But remember there are
plenty of other female characters in the movies and stories. There must be ugly
step-sisters and tired spinster women in the street. We assume those roles are
for the other girls. But those other
girls, as we come to see, find Prince Charming…or at least Prince
He’s-Pretty-Cool.
Perhaps we had it flipped all along. It’s the saddest thing in
the world to discover this fact.
We can’t all be Lizzie
Bennet; some of us will be Charlotte. And there are many a Charlotte having
not even attained a Mr. Collins.
We cannot all be loved. There may be enough people in the world,
but maybe not one in 6 billion quite like you (thus someone who could
appreciate you). Also, someone who, fitting that description, passes your way
in your lifetime; who also is of the “right” age, height, (a)sexuality, location and
chemistry level.
We cannot all give our fullest love. It is a sad fate when the
lot of so many women is to give their greatest attentions and time to friends
and pets when men who are “good” for them abuse their responsibility by
careless living or timidity.
What’s a girl to do? And who really is to blame? Is it the girl
for not being pretty enough? Is it
the guy for being too scared? Is it the Universe, which has no feeling for life
on earth save for nature and those few specimens who get to lead love lives
like Cinderella and Belle? Who is to say?
But when you look at yourself in the mirror and ask “Why!?” just
remember that there is no shame in being a side-character in your own story.
It’s humiliating, perhaps, but there it is. However, he may yet come along. And anyway, there are similarly sidelined characters to meet along the way.~
