Missed opportunities are when what should have
happened doesn’t. When what should be, is not. They happen more often than we
might think, but most of the time we aren’t aware enough to notice. Sometimes,
however, we all too clearly see what Could Have Been. When a missed opportunity
happens, and you watch it go by, it’s agonizing. You see a chance for something,
but now it’s too late. The moment has passed; and it’s not slowing down or
reversing its course for you.
Why
Missed Opportunities Happen
Missed opportunities show us that we aren’t
living in harmony with the Universe.
Sometimes missed opportunities result because
other people failed to do their part. A missed connection can result because
someone forgot to tell you a vital piece of information, or failed to convey
what someone wanted to pass on to you.
We rarely realize how often the Universe uses
us to impart vital Truths and spark creative impulses in others. We fail to see
that just as others have a potential to help us, we are as much a part of the
equation as anyone else. It is humbling to realize that we often fail be the
kinds of people those around us need us to be. We have much to give others, but
if we are set in our ways, we will unconsciously be stingy with ourselves. We
cannot know that everything we’ve been through is in fact for other people.
Synchronicity
Synchronicity, the opposite of missed
opportunity, is when all is in alignment. You have been making the right
conditions, living unselfishly, praying unceasingly. When we live in accord
with the natural flow, we are gifted with these precious glimpses of Big Magic
working in our lives. These are the moments when you meet your future best
friend because one time you walked this way instead of that, when every other
day you’ve missed them. 99% of the time we live in Missed Opportunity. So when
something Cosmic happens we are startled out of our wits. We are hit with a
vision of how interconnected we all are, how integral spirit is in our
seemingly provincial lives, how it takes minimal effort on our part—yet still
effort—for us to attract the right circumstances, people, and insights into our
lives.
Meant
to Be?
Some people are of the opinion that everything
happens for a reason. Nothing is a mistake because in a twisted way, even negative
occurrences are things we can learn from. This is partly true, but there are
some things in life that we very much can make happen, or stop from happening
if we put effort into it.
Doing
Our Part
So what can we do to ward off these missed
opportunities and sync ourselves with what’s meant to be?
Ask
the Universe for Help
·
Literally write a
letter to the Universe. How can you get answers, connections and clues if you
haven’t specifically (and I mean specifically) asked for what it is you Seek? My
friends and I did this in college one time when we desperately wanted to get a
sought after apartment. Not only did it work, but we’ve used this technique
since then for various things, with surprisingly consistent results.
·
If writing isn’t your
style, make a collage of images that embody what it is you seek. If you
desperately want to live in California, but don’t see how it’s possible, find
magazine pictures of people having fun in the sun, living the lifestyle you
imagine. You can never guess what opportunities might come that happen to make
it possible.
We
think because God is everywhere he must automatically read our minds and lend a
hand. God is benevolent, but he still requires our 5% of effort in our envisioning
and asking.
Be
Flexible
·
If we are too fixed on
a predetermined outcome, we will look many a gift horse in the mouth. It isn’t
always for us to decide what’s right for us or not; merely to be open to it
when it arrives. Also, not to cut it off should it appear at an unanticipated
time.
·
We are not required to
know everything ahead of time. We cannot predict how and when opportunity will
strike. It’s not a matter of deducing how the Universe works, per se, except in
so far as knowing that it works when we are Awake, have a goal/purpose in mind. However, me must be open/flexible in terms of how our questions will be answered or take shape.
“God always listens…what I do not utter is
that His answers to our prayers are not always what we ask.” –The House of
Hawthorne, Erika Robuck
Be
on the Watch
·
We have to be ready
for It to arrive at any time. It’s about being prepared for the Unknown. It’s a
seeming contradiction, and I think that’s why so many of us struggle with it.
How can you be prepared for something whose arrival you cannot possibly
predict?
·
We have to be diligent
artists, prepping the canvas with sufficient gesso, keeping one eye on our
paintbrush, one eye on our surroundings. So when Opportunity presents itself,
out of the blue---which is always how it likes to work, undetected from our
watchful gaze--we will be ready to get busy about our work. Yet we still are
required to be watchful. Missed Opportunity happens when we are eyeing other
people’s filled canvases or are too busy with our head in a techniques book.
We must not rest on our laurels.
We should be excited about the future; even if
we don’t know what to expect.
"Life is a series of surprises. We do
not guess to-day the mood, the pleasure, the power of to-morrow, when we are building up our being. Of lower states, — of
acts of routine and sense, — we can
tell somewhat; but the masterpieces of God, the total growths and universal movements of the soul, he hideth;
they are incalculable. I can know that truth is divine and helpful; but how it shall help me I can have no
guess…
The one thing which we seek with
insatiable desire is to forget ourselves, to be surprised out of our propriety… and to do something
without knowing how or why…. Nothing great was ever achieved without
enthusiasm. The way of life is wonderful: it is by abandonment. The great moments of history are the facilities of
performance through the strength of
ideas, as the works of genius and
religion. "A man," said Oliver Cromwell, "never rises so high as when he
knows not whither he is going." -Ralph Waldo Emerson